Am I a liar?

In the past, my husband often said I’m a liar.

I might be. I don’t know.

I didn’t think so, at least I don’t actively or purposefully lie.

But I recognize sometimes I hide the truth because I’m afraid I get in trouble.

If someone says anything slightly negative about me, I rush to defend myself so I don’t get in trouble.

… so that I don’t get found out!

In this process of defending myself, sometimes I fabricate or manipulate the truth.

Why do I do that?

What lies in the core is this belief that I am doing something wrong. I am wrong. I am incapable. I am a fraud.

In order to compensate for my perceived inadequacy, I work hard. Really hard.

…To prepare for the time someone points out my inadequacy, I can defend with “well at least I’m working hard!”

So why do I have to prepare for this?

This belief “I’m a fraud” - where does it come from?

I think I know where it comes from.

It has to do with some chronic experiences that I had during elementary/middle school years.

The detail of this, I am not ready to share with the world yet.

But I do know, I used to hide something every day during those years.

I was always afraid that I will be found out.

Ok.

So I am no longer in elementary or middle school.

I no longer have that problem that I used to hide.

And I have the power not to be in this fear.

This is what I do now.

“I am a fraud” is an incorrect story I created for myself.

So I am going to change this belief to “I am capable of anything I lay my hands on.”

I choose not to say or think “I am a fraud” from now on.

I am capable of anything I lay my hands on.

How about you?

Is there any incorrect story that you’re stuck in?

What if I told you, you have the power to flip the story and get out of the fear?