How to stop feeling like I'm not important to him.

“He’s so selfish! He only does whatever makes him happy. He never cares about me.”

Do you ever feel this way? Do you keep telling yourself this phrase over and over?

This is a very familiar phrase to me.

As long as I can remember, this phrase was like a mantra, constantly being played in my mind.

And, as long as it is being played in my mind, any little things that he did or said became evidence to support this truth.

He didn’t wait for me.

See, he doesn’t care about me.

He raised his voice at my friend.

See, he doesn’t care about me.

He didn’t give me anything I want for Christmas.

See, he doesn’t care about me.

Sure, I understand why you think this way.

But what about this?

He didn’t wait for me. HE RUSHED INTO THE RESTAURANT TO TELL THE WAITER IT’S MY BIRTHDAY.

He raised his voice at my friend, BECAUSE SHE WAS TAKING AN ADVANTAGE OF ME.

He didn’t give me anything I want for Christmas. INSTEAD, HE GAVE ME SOME EXPENSIVE BAG FROM RALPH LAUREN.

Because of your pre-determined wrong belief that he doesn’t care about you, you missed out on some important heart message from him!

He doesn’t always know what you want.

He’s trying his best to please you.

I invite you to listen to his heart message.

What is he actually trying to do?

He might not know what to do exactly, but what is his heart message behind his actions?