How to admit I was wrong.

Oops!

I said one thing wrong and the fight got started. He’s getting angry. Now there’s no going back. No matter what I say, it seems I’m just pouring fire over oil.

I only wish I could push “rewind” and do it all over!

All I need to say is, “I’m sorry I said XYZ, that was wrong.”

That’s all I need to say.

I know, I know… you want to say “but I didn’t mean it” or “but I was trying to help” or “but I thought…”

I know that you didn’t mean it. I know you’re a good person. Don’t worry, he knows that too.

You just don’t need to add this justification right now. Just keep it to yourself for now, and you’ll be thankful later!

Justification in this situation will only sound like an excuse that what I did was actually not wrong.

I just need to remember, I DID XYZ.

No matter what my intentions were, it is a fact I did XYZ, which was wrong.

I just need to own it. I need to take an accountability for what I did. Then I just need to apologize for it.

He might not accept my apology. I might feel something is not right.

Don’t worry. We don’t need to ignore that feeling that something is not right. But we will address this feeling a little later. OK?

For now, just admit that I did XYZ. Then just say “I’m sorry I did XYZ. Period”

There’s more to come. Don’t worry. I promise we will talk about your justification at the next blog.

Good job for taking this one MOST IMPORTANT first step: Taking a responsibility of your action.